Death isn’t choosy.

This week saw the death of former U.K. Prime Minister, Margaret Thatcher. I realize a politician’s life is destined to make some unfriendly liaisons along the way, but it seems the “Ironwoman” of the UK in the 80’s did a good job at amassing many disgruntled people during her eleven year tenure.

I am not going to touch on politics here but focus more on Margaret Thatcher’s act of a few days ago. Whether a fan of hers or not, we will all do exactly the same one day. That’s a unifying aspect of dying – politics, religion, race, nationality, gender, sexual preference and the list goes on – do not interfere with the fact that all of us will ultimately close our eyes one final time. Her time as leader of the UK might not be an act we’d like to follow, but her final act, follow we will.

Of course many people died in the past few days, globally we are talking hundreds of thousands, it is the natural cycle of life, but some make headlines whereas most do not.

My last blogpost I put a link to a certain Bo Lozoff. When I checked the link to catch up on his life’s story to date, I was quite shocked to find out he was killed in a motorcycle accident in Hawaii this past November. My wife and I are great fans of his books. They have helped us on our wayward paths trying to make sense out of the conundrum of life. He was a straight-talking spiritual guy, who founded The Human Kindness Foundation, and in his sixty plus years on the planet did much work with a group of people that most others would like to forget about and move on from – convicted murderers, rapists, armed robbers, and the like.

A motorcycle accident in England quite recently took the life of a person whom I didn’t know, but was a friend to some close friends of mine. He was a talented musician, partner and father of two. A split second decision to overtake a car and he was no longer on the physical plain.

What do these three people have in common? Their humanness. Indeed we all have something in common with them and the other hundreds of thousands who have recently moved on from the physical realm – plus the seven billion who are still with us. We are all sharing the same planet, and our lives, no matter how many years they stretch, in the full scheme of things, are short.

With death out there and not really looking around and saying, “Okay, this woman made lots of enemies while she was Prime Minister, and this guy here gave his life to work with the incarcerated, oh and this guy here is a wonderful musician and has two young children – so you I’ll take, you I’ll leave around a bit longer, and you have more than half your life ahead of you so live on.” Nope, doesn’t work like that.

There is no time limit put on a life. Death isn’t choosy. It just moves on and continues to do its thing, but life keeps moving on as well. There is no life that is in vain and no matter what you believe happens after the moment of your final breath every single deed we do during our lives affects someone and everything. Every minute we procrastinate to change something we’ve been meaning to do pushes that task into a future that may never come. Now is the moment. Don’t be choosy, the right time never comes because there is always something getting in the way.  Death is something guaranteed to come, and be it a young child, a life of promise, a brand new career, talent never before seen, or a list of enemies longer than Broadway, death doesn’t procrastinate – no being choosy for this one, it knows what must get done and just does it.

We weren’t born to merely exist, equally we are not here to just blindly follow rules of someone else’s idea of living. We know deep down the importance of the natural beauty that surrounds us, the value of every human life and leaving a peaceful healthy world in our wake for future generations to enjoy. We can get bogged down in other aspects of our lives, but the reality of our importance and interconnectedness to our living planet and its inhabitants is inescapable.

Let’s all try and reach our full potential. Read through the death notices in the newspaper. When you come across the one that says, “John Doe should have died yesterday but his two daughters and wife of 15 years are grateful to still have him around. He’s going to finally follow his dream because he had a good talk with death who cut him a little bit of slack, but just this once,”  please cut it out and send it to me. Post it on facebook. Let us all see it. If you don’t come across it or something similar, don’t wait too long looking because time passes much too quickly.

About thebikeguy61

I was born in The Bronx, in NYC. I traveled a fair bit of the world by bicycle for many years. In more recent years I have moved around Europe with my wife and 2 children. My first book was published in 2010, "Cycles of a Traveler". Back living in France after a fantastic voyage across America with my family. Next book on its way, and always more interviews to look forward to.
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11 Responses to Death isn’t choosy.

  1. William Julian says:

    Life… no none here gets out alive!!! Always liked that line.The other related line comes from an old 80’s tune “Welcome to your life there’s no turning back….”


  2. dawntweets says:

    The author reaches my heart with this article, as I am sure it does with many. The persecution and ridicule expressed by some makes one wonder if they are running from their own fears, or maybe they just lack intellect and common sense. You are quite right when expressing the true fact that it is a cert that one day our time will come, we will be taken… but whilst we are still here we should smell the roses and live. Excellent post.


    • thebikeguy61 says:

      Dawn, I struggle daily with trying to be non-judgemental of others faults. I know it’s too easy to fall into that trap. I’m not always successful, but when I see it expressed in the forms it has recently taken it spurs me on to try harder to find forgiveness on a deeper level. It can be difficult at times, but writing and sharing my thoughts helps immensely.
      Thanks for appreciating my words.
      Peace, Joe


  3. Nick Simms says:

    I was diagnosed with a cancerous tumour in December. I’m being treated for it now. I’m 46. My regret is that I had to be threatened with death before I started living.


    • thebikeguy61 says:

      Nick, I cannot fully understand what you are going through. I’m not much older than you and still feel I am learning daily. I hope maybe through your treatment you can appreciate the 46 years you have lived, and who knows what the future holds? Your experience may pack lots of living and realisations in the years to come.

      You might find the link “Mark Hyman talks about functional medicine”, which is under my informative links very interesting.

      All the best, Joe


  4. My mother used to get us to eat all our food because we should be grateful we were not starving in Africa. As a historian, I am constantly finding stories of lives that were truly hard – at times unbearably so. By comparison, most of our lives are pretty easy at least most of the time. I have no idea if this is due to god or God or whatever, but somehow we have a duty to make the most of it. To do our best for others, and live as well as we can. Thanks for the post. I am sick of all the negative stuff about Mrs T. She was elected. She has been long gone. Time to grow up, live with her legacy and move on. Like grownups.


    • thebikeguy61 says:

      Yes Barb, we were talking about that today. I’m no fan of economics or politics, but also not a fan of out and out celebrations of someone’s death, no matter who it is. I hope we can move on into a world where we can accept our part in it all, and not always look to blame others for the world’s woes. Beleive me, I’m not perfect at it, but strive to be better at looking at my faults.


      • I felt I had to do a blog post on her death, and I wanted a song at the end of it. I started listening to Billy Bragg’s ‘Between the Wars’, a real classic of left politics, but it ends with the lines, ‘Sweet moderation, heart of our nation. We need more of that, and I always thought that was what the British, especialy the English, do so well.


  5. andrea Hall says:

    I lost my mum in a split second, one minute we were chatting as we drove, the next we were being cut from the entangled mess that was our car and a coach. I was taught that from every situation, regardless of how bad it may seem, we can find some good, no matter how bleak and unrealistic that appears to be. I learned to be tough to the knocks in life, after all what can ever be that bad – not much I’ll tell you. The second thing is a sense of the fragility of life, how short it can be and the knowledge that at any time it can be taken from you without warning. I am now about the age she was when she died & I try to teach my children this philosophy. I also teach them not to give others a hard time, life is hard enough (especially if that person is disadvantaged, in whatever way, physically, socially economically) it is all part of the hand they were dealt, we should concern ourselves with our own actions and how we interact with our fellow human beings. We have become so economically driven and forgotten about the important things in life, those we love and who love us in return. When everything is on the line is the time when you realise this.
    ” memories are the currency of life, only by collecting great ones, can a man become truly rich. ”
    Andrea Hall


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